Book Review: Smart Women Know When to Say No

July 7, 2015


Smart Women Know When to Say No
Dr. Kevin Leman
272 pages
Kindle edition

From the Publisher:
Do you have a hard time saying no to people?
Do you feel guilty taking time out for yourself?
Do you feel overwhelmed by responsibilities?

If you can answer yes to any of these questions, you might be trying to keep others happy at your own expense. What happens when keeping everyone else happy steals your own happiness–or even your health?

Bestselling author and psychologist Dr. Kevin Leman can help you break this destructive pattern in your life. With his wise and witty counsel, you’ll learn how to

give yourself positive messages avoid or deal with the “controlling” men in your life build your self-esteem say no when you need to and more.

With Dr. Leman’s help, you can become a person who can assert herself but still keep her pleasing personality. So say good-bye to guilt and hello to a brand new you!

This book was on on my non-fiction summer reading list.  I spent a week were I really bust through a couple of my top favorites on my summer reading list.  (at least I tried too).  I’ve read some other books by Dr. Leman in the past and really enjoyed them.  I really liked First Time Mom, I read that after my 2nd baby , but I still remember thinking it was full of some good ideas. I’ve also read through his Birth Order book and find it pretty interesting.

I was really looking forward to this book.  But I have to tell you, it was not my favorite.  I really had a hard time with it.

I will admit it right now, I have a problem saying no.   You might already know this about me, if you know me well.  I’m a people pleaser. I have a hard time saying no.  When I get an email from a teacher or someone at church asking for volunteers, I immediately think I have to be the one to volunteer, even if it’s sent to a whole group of people. 

But I also have to say, I don’t think I live with a bunch of controllers either. Maybe I’m in denial (ha!), but I think I am able to say no enough.  I just LIKE to say yes. I think this book focused more on controllers than I cared for.  I just don’t think it was the book that I was looking for.  I wanted more action/more ideas to take away and work on.  I didn’t feel like this book was the answer for me.

I still think Dr. Leman has good ideas and is good at his job.  I have another book by him on my summer reading list and I’m going to give it a try.  I like his parenting ideas and his writing style. I just don’t think this was the book I was looking for.  It wasn’t for me.

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